I just want to take a second and explain a little bit about why I talk about boys and getting married on here so much.
Apparently, I've freaked my mom out a little bit cause she thinks that I'm really scared that I'm never going to get married. So I just want to talk about that for a second.
I'm not always worried, anymore. Some days I freak out about. Some days I get totally terrified about the thought of moving to India all alone. Some days I am totally worried. But on those days, I remind myself that God is in control of my life. He knew how my life was going to go long before the day I was born. He has a fantastic plan for my life and all I have to do is trust Him.
But.
That is so much easier said than done. ESPECIALLY in today's church. It is easy to get freaked out when I look around and see the shortage of men around me. (and I'm not just talking about at Carolina- that is a completely different problem) I'm not saying that all the guys in the church are wimps or anything like that AT ALL. I know great Christian guys who are going to be wonderful husbands and strong leaders. But, it just doesn't seem like there are enough of them. Or they won't take the initiative in the relationship. Or, for me, they don't want to go overseas.
I'm not trying to bash on the guys in Cornerstone or at Summit, like I said, I know some really great guys in both.
What I'm saying is that this is an issue that we are scared about. Girls my age are worried that there isn't going to be strong Christian men to go around.
We're scared.
But nobody wants to talk about it.
We NEED to talk about it. We can't carry it around inside or the worry and fear is going to build up and become an idol. That's what happened to me and that's why I talk about it so much.
I don't have a solution to the problem that we are facing. I am trying desperately to trust God with my life and my future. It's a day by day process.
What I do know is that this is something that we girls need to talk about. Girls need to know that they aren't the only ones who are scared about this. We need to know that its normal, but that it doesn't have to consume us. That there is a way out. A way to find peace about the fact that we may be single.
So I'm going to keep writing about it. Because I hope that by doing so, I will be able to encourage someone who is struggling through what I am going through and help them find a peace in our Father and to rest in His promises.
Apparently, I've freaked my mom out a little bit cause she thinks that I'm really scared that I'm never going to get married. So I just want to talk about that for a second.
I'm not always worried, anymore. Some days I freak out about. Some days I get totally terrified about the thought of moving to India all alone. Some days I am totally worried. But on those days, I remind myself that God is in control of my life. He knew how my life was going to go long before the day I was born. He has a fantastic plan for my life and all I have to do is trust Him.
But.
That is so much easier said than done. ESPECIALLY in today's church. It is easy to get freaked out when I look around and see the shortage of men around me. (and I'm not just talking about at Carolina- that is a completely different problem) I'm not saying that all the guys in the church are wimps or anything like that AT ALL. I know great Christian guys who are going to be wonderful husbands and strong leaders. But, it just doesn't seem like there are enough of them. Or they won't take the initiative in the relationship. Or, for me, they don't want to go overseas.
I'm not trying to bash on the guys in Cornerstone or at Summit, like I said, I know some really great guys in both.
What I'm saying is that this is an issue that we are scared about. Girls my age are worried that there isn't going to be strong Christian men to go around.
We're scared.
But nobody wants to talk about it.
We NEED to talk about it. We can't carry it around inside or the worry and fear is going to build up and become an idol. That's what happened to me and that's why I talk about it so much.
I don't have a solution to the problem that we are facing. I am trying desperately to trust God with my life and my future. It's a day by day process.
What I do know is that this is something that we girls need to talk about. Girls need to know that they aren't the only ones who are scared about this. We need to know that its normal, but that it doesn't have to consume us. That there is a way out. A way to find peace about the fact that we may be single.
So I'm going to keep writing about it. Because I hope that by doing so, I will be able to encourage someone who is struggling through what I am going through and help them find a peace in our Father and to rest in His promises.
You're right. It is good to talk about these things, and not to hide them like we are ashamed about it. And if God has laid marriage on your heart, you shouldn't be ashamed of it!
ReplyDeleteI wish I could remember where I read it, but a girl was asked "Do you think God is calling you to singleness?". Her answer was "For today, He is". I think that's awesome. You don't know the plans God has for you, but you know that for today, you are called to be single, and you will use that for God's glory. You don't know what the future holds, but you can put your trust in God.
And for what it's worth, I felt like I had met all the single men at The Summit and didn't want to marry any of them. And the Josh started attending The Summit :) I had pretty much given up on meeting a guy at church, and then God surprised me. Not saying that this will happen to you, but just showing that what I thought was a dead end proved not to be one. God likes to remind me that I'm not in charge and I don't know everything.
So keep posting, keep processing, and keep thinking about marriage. And you are blessed to have access to your parents - they were one of the couples that led our engagement classes!
You know how I feel about these posts. Love. God has given you a gift in how you write about it. Keep them coming, bc you are helping not only you remember the gospel, but other single women AND the old marrieds;)
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